They might be little, but children have a massive amount of energy.
Which is lovely. Except for the times when youâre absolutely knackered from work/ no sleep/ being a parent (or even all three). Or when youâre stressed, which is probably the majority of the time.
So what are you meant to do when you're too tired to play with baby?
Janet Cooper, Speech and Language Therapist and Early Communications Lead at Stoke Speaks Out says: âDonât feel guilty about feeling burnt out. We all feel like this at times and itâs OK to take your foot off the pedal now and again. As well as being a parent youâve got your job, and your daily chores: these things donât go away just because youâve got children. And children donât always fit in with your energy patterns.â
Luckily there are ways to keep your child happy and amused that donât require a load of energy from you, says Janet.
You need to be physically and emotionally present but there are lots of games you can play that are less energetic and that will still keep your baby or child entertained.
If you're thinking "I don't have the energy to play with my baby", there are still plenty of exciting activities you can do with your child.
If you are caring for a newborn...
Your baby isnât old enough to play on their own. But for those times when youâre exhausted, there is a low-energy solution.
âYou donât need to be playing, dancing or singing all the time," says Janet. "Your child will just want you in sight and get reassurance from your voice. You can talk about anything and everything. Get down on your babyâs level so they can feel your proximity and safety being there.â
Low energy activities for tired parents
- Try lying next to each other on the floor for some one-to-one time
- Blow some bubbles for them
- Having a cuddle is great for a young baby's development
If your baby is 12-18 months...
Your little one is likely to be on the move, so help them use up that energy by singing some of their favourite songs. âSinging releases serotonin which is a âfeel-good factor' hormone,â says Janet.
Sit on the floor and sing, and if you need some inspiration, check out the Tiny Happy People collection of nursery rhymes and songs.
And bear in mind your baby might be feeling sleepy, too.
âParents can miss the cues of their child being tired," says Janet. âIf theyâre being grouchy or demanding more attention itâs often because theyâre tired. So instead of trying to think of new games, it might be better to think of ways to give them some downtime, like snuggling up with a book.â
More activities for exhausted parents
- Let your toddler explore the objects around the room and help their language by describing what they are
- Why not pretend to put Teddy to bed? You might be able to catch a few seconds a sleep as well!
- Lullabies can lower your babies heart rate and calm them down
If your toddler is 18-24 months...
Your toddler is developing a sense of independence. So why not help them develop this, especially on those days when youâre feeling exhausted.
Janet says: âPuzzles, shape sorters and posting games are all great activities. Give your child a choice of which one to do. You can get them started by putting one or two pieces in, and then get them to complete the task. Youâve focused their attention on the task and you can help them if and when they get stuck.â
If youâve got music on, you can take singing together to the next level by getting your toddler to be the entertainer. âEven little toddlers can perform for you," says Janet. âHelp them dress up then they can do a little show by doing the actions to Dingle Dangle Scarecrow or another of their favourite songs.â
Activity ideas when you're struggling with lack of sleep
- In need of a sit down? Why not play the shopping game and take the role of the shopkeeper?
- Playing with sock puppets is an great activity that you can also do sitting or lying down
- If you've got loads of chores to do, why not get your child involved?
If your child is 2-3 years old...
One of your childâs favourite games at this age is likely to be pretend play. And this is a great activity to encourage when youâre tired. âWith pretend play you can let your child take the lead. You might have to get them started and give them focus but then you can be more passive in that play.â
When theyâve had enough, grab a book and get comfy on the sofa. Pick a book thatâs got a nice rhythm to it, like the Julia Donaldson books. If youâre too tired to read, you could listen to an audiobook with your child. âItâs not as powerful as sharing the book together but if youâre tired and stressed, playing that book and sitting alongside your child listening is a nice activity,â says Janet.
Activity inspiration to cope with exhaustion
- Your child will love having a teddy bearâs picnic
- Have a sit down with your child and try making faces at one another - this can help them learn about emotions
- Ripping up paper is a fun way to help your child develop their hand-eye coordination.
If your child is 3-4 years old...
You might not have the energy to play. But you can still help your child find ways to entertain themselves.
âIf you keep saying ânoâ or âin a secondâ, that will just escalate your childâs behaviour," says Janet.
Instead think of ways to involve yourself in a game but where you donât have to use loads of energy.
âHelp your child get started in their activity and then let them play," says Janet. âAt this age, your child can often just hold you in mind. They know youâre there and feel secure even when youâre out of sight.â
A couple of ideas for when you're too tired to think
- Why not try some sleep time games like sleeping lions to keep your child entertained?
- Build a cosy corner for your child to play in
- Try a memory game together - can your child tell you about something you did earlier in the week?
If your child is 4-5 years old...
Your child loves challenges. So why not set them off on an indoor treasure hunt?
âThink of activities that are a bit of a challenge so your child can go off and independently do something. For example, ask them to bring you five things that are red, or five things that are round," says Janet. "As the parent, you donât need to use too much energy. Instead, you can set things up then sit back.â
Another great idea is to give your child different activities to complete and you can be the âjudgeâ. This could be a throwing game using just rolled-up socks that they have to get into pots or saucepans.
And donât forget to get your family involved. âWhen youâre too exhausted, you could video call granny and ask her to talk to your child," says Janet. âIf you have the energy, you could visit them or just go for a walk to get a change of scenery if youâre feeling stressed.â
Entertaining an energetic 4-year-old
- Drawing together is an easy activity to get your child talking
- How about a simple game of I spy?
- Why not have a sit down with a story book and add some special sounds?
What about screen time?
Sometimes when you're struggling with sleep deprivation and your energy levels are low, screen time seems like an easy way out. But giving your child a screen to watch can often come with parent guilt too.
How much screen time is too much? Should I be doing more?
But screen time doesn't necessarily have to be bad. We spoke to speech and language therapist Janet Cooper about how we can make a positive of time on devices.