Every parent has been there, just about⊠When youâre in the supermarket and your little one starts kicking and screaming and thereâs just no apparent way to end the tears.
But why do toddlers have tantrums and what can you do to help them?
In the video below, we've put together a handy guide to help you understand and hopefully cope with toddler tantrums.
Why do toddlers have tantrums?
It can be difficult to tell why toddler tantrums start. However, a lot of the time they happen when children are feeling an emotion or sensation that they just donât have the words for yet. This could be âIâm hungry!â or âIâm tired!â or âIâm frustrated!â.
Learn more about helping your child deal with uncertainty and change here.
Tantrums are a way of expressing these feelings without the ability to let you know clearly.
The good news is, as childrenâs speech develops, they usually grow out of tantrums as they become able to communicate their feelings more effectively.
When do toddler tantrums start?
Toddler tantrums usually start at around 18 months.
Do boys have more tantrums than girls or vice versa?
Tantrums affect both boys and girls equally.
3 top tips for dealing with toddler tantrums
1. Stay as calm as possible.
- Take deep breaths, use a calm voice and get close to your little one as you speak to them.
2. Try to identify the problem.
- Get down to their level and calmly ask them simple questions like âare you hungry?â or âare you tired?â.
- Donât shut them down by telling them to âstopâ or âbe quietâ.
3. Give them words to express their emotions.
- Give your child words to express how they feel and theyâll hopefully start to tell you whatâs going on rather than acting it out.
- Start with simple words like âsadâ and âangryâ.
Created with help from child psychologist Dr Claire Halsey and child development researcher Dr Michelle Lowe.