Little Miss Burden
Playwright Matilda Feyisayo Ibini on growing up black and disabled in London
Matilda Feyisayo Ibini became physically disabled at five but wasnāt diagnosed with the progressive muscle-weakening condition Limb-girdle muscular dystrophy until aged 13. Her radio play, Little Miss Burden, captures the fun and anxiety of growing up in an inaccessible London council house in the 90s, with a single mother and two non-disabled siblings.
Here, Matilda tells Emma Tracey about managing mental health difficulties and the freedom of living independently for the first time in her mid-20s.
Transcript
This is a full transcript of the Ouch podcast ā Matilda - Little Miss Burden, presented by Emma Tracey, as broadcast on 2nd December 2021
JINGLE - ±«Óćtv Sounds: music, radio, podcasts.
EMMA - Hello, Iām Emma Tracey and this is the Ouch podcast. Itās a disability thing. Weāve had some cracking episodes recently. Our Beth spoke to two disabled Americans about their zero gravity flight, and Keiligh chatted to environmentalists about the huge impact that climate change is having on disabled people all over the world. This time I get to have a conversation with a young black disabled playwright from London whose voice is so calming and whose story is utterly relatable. Youāll hear some clips from Matildaās radio play, Little Miss Burden, throughout the chat, and Iāll be back again at the end with our contact details. For now though Iām going to sit back and let Matilda introduce herself.
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MATILDA - My nameās Matilda Feyisayo Ibini and Iām a bionic playwright and screenwriter from East London. And Iām just going to visually describe myself. Iām a black woman in her early 30s wearing my thick-rimmed glasses, a blue t-shirt and my African print bonnet.
EMMA - And you called yourself a bionic playwright, what does that mean?
MATILDA - Though yes, I do identify as a disabled writer and a disabled person, my work isnāt disabled. So, I was thinking about a way to or a word that could describe the impact that being disabled has on my work. I stumbled across bionic after Iād had quite a bad fracture a couple of years ago, and they implanted metal into my leg, and someone who visited me at the hospital had joked that I was now part woman, part metal. But it kind of inspired that journey to find this term that describes the work that I do, and that I feel that my work moves and itās aided by my wheelchair and all the kind of accessible equipment I have at home. That even though I may not always write explicitly about disability my work is always influenced and impacted by it.
EMMA - So, you do have a play on ±«Óćtv Sounds at the moment called Little Miss Burden. What is it about?
MATILDA - Yeah, so Little Miss Burden is a coming of age story. Itās semi-autobiographical because Iāve definitely told all of my life in that story. But a very condensed version of what it was like to grow up in the 90s as a young black girl with a disability in a family where I was the only person in the family with a disability, in a very Nigerian, Catholic household. And what it felt like to have two non-disabled siblings and kind of how we mirrored ourselves as black girls on popular black girl bands; but then also how I did feel a bit not like my sisters because I had this condition. So, a kind of coming of age story of coming to terms with what it meant to be disabled, and facing some of the things that come up with disability and religion and disability and culture.
EMMA - A young black girl in London with Nigerian heritage. And youāve got physical impairments but they donāt know why. Can you tell me a bit about that road to diagnosis for you and your specific experience of that?
MATILDA ā Yeah so, it took about eight years to get a diagnosis.
EMMA - Thatās a long time.
MATILDA - Symptoms presented themselves when I was five and I wasnāt diagnosed until I was 13. So, within that eight-year gap it was just a lot of tests. And coming from a very Christian household meant also going to a lot of churches and my mumās friends inviting her to different churches who believed their pastors had performed miracles or could perform miracles or could ācureā me. What that felt like growing up with the thing that didnāt have a name as well, I was often challenged about whether or not it was real, because if the doctors couldnāt find what was wrong or why I was experiencing these specific symptoms and how it was limiting my mobility then it might not be real, or that it could have some other spiritual connotations. They would pull me aside when my mum wasnāt there and ask if I was faking it for attention or, you know, Iām causing my mum a lot of distress, I should just walk properly.
EMMA ā Wow!
MATILDA - And itās just wild. Yeah.
EMMA - Thatās incredible. Wow, gosh.
MATILDA - And how that sort of followed me into adulthood as well. Iāve got ā which I guess I donāt mind sharing ā I definitely have PTSD when it comes to going to hospitals and things like that because Iāve had such negative experiences within them in terms of yeah, actual harm and things done to me. And then gas-lighting that, itās just happened because of my condition.
EMMA - How does that affect you now?
MATILDA - I remember speaking to a really lovely nurse who was like, āI need to keep an eye on you because you donāt seem the type to tell people when youāre in a lot of painā. That Iāve just learnt to really bottle everything, which definitely is not healthy, but itās kind of a response to not being believed when I was in a lot of pain or just being left or ignored kind of thing.
EMMA - And was it all together a good thing to get the diagnosis?
MATILDA - Yeah definitely. I think what was scary about it or not really understanding it for quite a while was actually what it meant. It didnāt have a name. Now it does. Okay, so what are we going to do to get rid of it ā that was my mindset now.
EMMA - So, it was letās fix this.
MATILDA ā Exactly.
EMMA - And obviously your family wanted that for you as well so they were on board with that idea?
MATILDA - Exactly. It was a celebration like at church, like oh thatās Godās doing, youāve got a name for it now so now they know what it is theyāre going to know how to treat it. So, there was all this hope that meant I was going to get cured now.
PLAY EXTRACT - Limb girdle muscular dystrophy, a gift I didnāt ask for and couldnāt return. [Music] Little Miss, come on down! Letās look at all the excellent prizes youāve won: progressive weakness of the hip and leg muscles, which means walking with a waddle. Hold on, I donāt want that. Over time it will become increasingly hard to do daily activities like combing your hair, brushing your teeth or feeding yourself. The heart and lungs may decline over time, though this isnāt the case for everyone. Can I return these prizes? Fortunately for you your type of LGMD doesnāt affect sensation, digestion, bowels, bladder, sexual function or intellect. Is that a good or a bad thing? That anyone can know by looking at you, so society will still discriminate and disrespect you at every turn. Better luck next time. [Cackling and music]
EMMA - Thereās a part in the play, whether itās in your life or not, was once you knew you had a diagnosis you went to have surgery. But it felt like in the play that you didnāt quite understand what was going to happen.
MATILDA ā Yeah.
EMMA - And I honestly think so many disabled children and young people can relate to that. Itās basically everyone being so hopeful and so happy that youāre going for surgery and that itās going to fix things that you donāt quite get whatās actually going to happen.
MATILDA - Yeah, thatās definitely based on a real experience. And I think both for my mum as well, like we were both very hopeful about what was possible for this surgery. And I think at that time because I was maybe 13 or 14, so it was quite short after the diagnosis that they mentioned that they could now do this surgery since they knew what it was, but it was corrective surgery. And I didnāt know; it was never broken down to me in a way that I could understand. I just heard, weāre going to do this surgery, youāll walk properly and thatās the end of that. So, I was like oh my god, this is it, this is what weāve been waiting for, maybe there is a God, maybe this is all real. And going back to school, I only told my two friends at the time so I donāt know how it got around school that Matildaās having this surgery and then sheās going to come back normal. And then because I had such a prolonged recovery period it just kind of built up the anticipation of like, oh when Matilda comes back sheās going to be fine, sheās going to be like us, sheās going to be able to run and take part in PE and all that kind of stuff. And I remember discovering when, other than being able to maybe stand up straighter, the surgery had improved my posture, nothing else had changed. And I didnāt want to come back. I remember it very vividly, I do not want to go back to school, I canāt.
EMMA - That feels to me like that might have been the start of a road towards disabled person identity, even though the road might have been a little bit long and bumpy. Having realised that the surgery wasnāt going to fix things what happened from there?
MATILDAĀ -Yeah, I think youāre absolutely right in the sense of realising very early, well not very early on, in my teens that this thing isnāt going anywhere; that I think this is going to stick around for a very long while, maybe even till old age. I think immediately it probably made me really scared because I was like I donāt know anyone whoās got this so I donāt know what the future looks like for people with this. I was a very shy teenager growing up, and as my mobility decreased I went out less and less so I wasnāt meeting people or developing any kind of friendship or life outside of school. So, it made life at that point feel really miserable. And I think thatās probably the earliest signs that I started to experience depression, probably in my mid-teens around 15, 16. And things were progressing in the sense that it was getting harder to do things on my own and I was relying more and more on my mum.
I think what also exacerbated my mental health struggles was the fact that I wasnāt getting the support that I needed. This is someone who struggles to climb stairs, and I was in a school that had more stairs than the Great Wall of China. It was so inaccessible; what was I doing there? But oh, it was the closest school to my house. But that didnāt make it any better. There were so many things now that I look back that I realise could have helped but I just didnāt have it or didnāt know. Like I didnāt have a social worker until almost early to mid-20s so we werenāt aware of any of the support that was out there in terms of taking me to school or bringing me home. Because my mum was a single mother working several part-time jobs and having to drop me to school or pick me up or pay for taxis to drop me to school and pick me up. I think the lack of support made that even harder.
And then when I became an adult and my mental health was probably really at its worst between the ages of 18 and 21, Iām really sorry to say this bluntly, but realising how much it felt like the world hated disabled people. So, my mental health was then further exacerbated by the treatment that I was receiving from others, whether that was members of the public, whether that was hospitals and doctors, whether that was people in the church ā just constant animosity at my presence.
EMMA - Were people difficult to you to your face?
MATILDA - Yes, very difficult to my face. Itās hardly ever subtle is what I would say. People genuinely saying things or shouting rude things at me, being rude to me. And then I developed a genuine fear of going out. I was like I canāt leave my house because when I leave my house people just rip into me.
EMMA - Wow. Why do you think that was the case? Or do you think itās the case for everybody? Or was it particular situations for you?
MATILDA - I think a bit of both really. Iām sure this is experienced by lots of disabled people.
EMMA -Yeah.
MATILDA - And Iād just say maybe that what I was also experiencing was kind of ableism also mixed in with racism. Often you donāt even know why. Youāre questioning why are people treating me this way, Iāve not even said anything, they donāt know me, how have I offended you before Iāve even opened my mouth.
EMMA - Yeah. So, how do you move forward from that?
MATILDA - Counselling, a hell of a lot of therapy, my goodness, because it was trauma. That was what I was experiencing was trauma: trauma at the hands of being horrifically bullied in secondary school and college; trauma at the hands of medical staff and that institution; trauma at the hands of church and Christianity and Catholicism. All of it was just trauma. And it didnāt really manifest in me until my early to mid-20s where I was just a wreck. I was just a wreck. I wasnāt interesting in forming relationships or friendships with people. I was incredibly closed off. Hardly went out of my house unless absolutely necessary. I was just becoming a shell of myself and my mum and family could see that.
PLAY EXTRACT - Youāve been having a rough time lately. Who are you? Iām a hot topic. Youāll have heard of me: depression. Now I go by my stage name, The Fade. Seems you canāt get anything right these days. I donāt want to talk about it. No worries, I love the sound of my own voice. Weāre more alike me and you. And LGMD, isnāt she so annoying. LGMD has ruined everything. I hate her. Join the club, sheās so selfish. And bossy! I donāt like the way she talks to you. She acts like she was here first. Exactly! She makes me so angry. I know. You have every right to hate LGMD, your sisters, your mum, even God. I donāt hate them. Why are they normal and not you? Yeah. What did they do that you didnāt? I donāt know what I did. It must have been bad since Godās punishing you. Mum said all I had to do was believe and Iād be fixed. Itās worse now. You canāt trust anything mum says; she lies to you. You canāt trust anyone. Yeah. You know what sheās really saying when she prays? She doesnāt pray for LGMD to go away, she prays for you to go away. Really? Look, if everyone agrees youāre the problem then you know what you must do. Disappear. Donāt worry, Iāll take it from here. [Together] We canāt trust anyone. If the people canāt see you then they canāt hurt you.
EMMA - So, treatment was the answer, you had the right support and the right treatment?
MATILDA - Yes. I was really lucky to have this incredible physio who probably went above and beyond her actual remit in terms of pushing me to go to counselling, encouraging me to apply for housing because my housing situation wasnāt great either. My mum lives in an old Victorian house with no access, and Iām climbing stairs daily, and itās draining me. And not just climbing stairs, Iām also falling down stairs. And I think she said to my mum, āitās only going to take one fall one day when no oneās around and Matilda hits her head and she doesnāt get up, so we need to move her into an accessible homeā. This physio was amazing in helping facilitate a lot of that.
EMMA - Was getting your independence, living somewhere else that was accessible to you, was that a turning point? I mean, thereās still a lot that goes with that if you need care and support and PAs and stuff.
MATILDA - Oh absolutely. I feel like it saved me and my mumās relationship as well because obviously I was becoming this disabled adult, but also my condition meant because it was progressing it meant I was relying on her more. But Iād still got two younger siblings that sheās raising and she works, so I didnāt feel like I had the space to grow into an adult. It definitely put a strain on our relationship basically. And so when I was able to finally move out ā and at the time I didnāt know I was going to need a care package so none of that was set in place, I was still able to do quite a lot on my own, just very slowly ā it meant finding that out the hard way. But moving out was probably the best decision of my life.
EMMA - As a blind person I find my mum finds it really hard to look at me doing things a different way. And sheās like, āoh please can I do it for you? Let me do itā.
MATILDA - There were so many unsafe things that I was doing in the first year that I lived alone. But, Iām not going to lie, it was awesome. Yes, they were dangerous but it meant I could stay up really late, and come home really late, and hang out with people and invite people over, and just that kind of autonomy.
EMMA - Yeah, that freedom that you would have got if youād gone away to university.
MATILDA - Yeah exactly ā in my mid-20s. [Laughter]
EMMA - Tell me a dangerous thing that you were doing.
MATILDA - Ooh, which one do I even start with? There was a really dangerous method of how Iād get into bed, and sometimes it didnāt always work so I would have to have my phone literally in my pocket in case it didnāt work so I could call my mum to come and get me off the floor.
EMMA - Oh god. How many times did you have to call her?
MATILDA - Actually I was pretty good because it was usually on my extremely fatigued days that I wouldnāt make it. But Iād say eight times out of ten Iād get into bed.
EMMA - So, what were you doing, diving from your chair in?
MATILDA - Yes, literally diving. There was one time I hit the headboard and woke up the next day sprawled on my bed. So, I hit the headboard, I must have just passed out.
EMMA - But you had a good time. And honestly severalā¦
MATILDA - I can laugh about it now.
EMMA - ā¦people who are not disabled have hit the headboard and passed out in their first year of living by themselves. [Laughter]
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EMMA - Weāve spent a lot longer on the gloomy stuff than I had intended, and I hope it wasnāt too triggering or difficult for you to talk about.
MATILDA - No itās all right.
EMMA - The first time I knew of you as a playwright was I was invited to a reading I think of a work in progress around artificial intelligence and care. And I was like, thatās really interesting talking about robots that help with personal care and stuff like that. Tell me about that and where that came from, and about you said you only realised eventually that youād need a care package, but youāve built that up now.
MATILDA - Yeah. Itās a huge play and itās a sprawling play and itās one Iām still writing. I was talking to a director friend and I was like, it feels like itās going to be that play that I say it took me a decade to write, because itās just constantly changing. And this pandemic has definitely revealed things about care and how I address it within the play. I initially had tried to write this play back in 2012 on a writing course. It was directly after an appointment that Iād had where the doctor had said, āin the future sheās going to need careā and I asked, āmy mum cares for me. Whatās that?ā And he was like, āno, as in people who will come in and provide support to help you get dressed in the morning and things like thatā. And he was talking about something so far into the future that scared me of the idea of having strangers come into my house or wherever Iād be living and performing such intimate tasks. So, that inspired that Iād actually prefer a robot to do that.
EMMA ā Yeah.
MATILDA - And then I couldnāt write it because I had not experienced life the way that I needed to to be able to write it. And I came back to it in 2018 with another director friend of mine. And so we got development funding from Unlimited who funded an R&D for us to really explore and get in touch with people who also worked in tech and care. Thereās a brilliant researcher in tech and care called Lydia Nicholas whoās just amazing. Her insights and how she was able to help me understand the different ways tech can help care or healthcare in general. The reading that you mentioned we had that just before the pandemic. That was the end of 2019. And then I was meant to spend 2020 writing it. And then the world changed.
EMMA - Yeah. So, with everything in mind would you want a robot instead of a person? Would that be an ideal scenario?
MATILDA - Itās not a straightforward answer, and I donāt want to cop out, but I definitely would have benefited from one during the pandemic. Like who wouldnāt have benefited from a robot carer? But itās a complex question that Iām exploring in the play, that what are the sacrifices of relinquishing human carers and also human touch and human interaction if you were only left with a robot carer. It would be great to have a robot carer who could assist human carers. So, it could take instruction, could provide training so that I donāt have to always explain, who could take on all that kind of cognitive labour that disabled people have to do when they have care. I would love a robot to take that on so I have more time in my day and energy to think about other things. Someone whoās doing inventory of my meds; someone whoās doing inventory of access equipment or whatever. I think thereās a use for robotic carers, but I donāt think in the way that has to get rid of human carers.
EMMA - Yeah, you canāt really imagine robot hands manhandling you.
MATILDA - Yeah, like how would they know how much pressure to apply and things like that. But I feel like there is, in my head at least, thereās some kind of happy medium between the two.
EMMA ā You know your PAs could listen to this or people who care. Is it quite hard to talk about your care and to write about your care? Itās not as hard to write about other aspects of disability; but is it a tricky one?
MATILDA - It used to be, I wonāt lie. And also not just to write about; I think I genuinely used to ā showing my internalised ableism here ā I think I genuinely used to have a bit of shame about it. I donāt think Iāve talked about my care this much since the pandemic, if that makes sense.
EMMA ā Yeah.
MATILDA - Like the pandemic has somehow forced me to have to talk about my care with collaborators a lot more because the situation isnāt as easy or smooth.
EMMA - Because you didnāt have as much flexibility around what you could do?
MATILDA - Exactly. I liked the idea that people just thought Iād appear, like Iād just show up at the right theatre at the right time, or I could just make that outing or whatever, I can just meet you at the cinema. There was something quite nice of just thinking I could just appear in places.
EMMA - Yeah exactly.
MATILDA - Where in reality it takes a lot of planning and practical, strategic time management. Because I donāt have 24-hour care so a lot of the time it feels like Iām rationing hours.
EMMA - And planning and messaging and sorting and messaging andā¦
MATILDA - Exactly. Itās like running a small business but without the profit, like running your own care package. And it takes up a lot of brain space and energy away from things that Iād rather be doing.
EMMA ā Sure.
MATILDA - Like as much as I get on with my carers and theyāre a great team, Iād also love to be able to just do other stuff or have the energy and time to do other things.
EMMA - Itās the mental load, isnāt it, of it all, as you say.
MATILDA ā Yes.
EMMA - What did you do in the pandemic? Did carers continue to come in? What way did you work?
MATILDA - Yes, I shielded throughout, and to some extent still am, in terms of had to change all the ways that we worked. I had quite a few leave at the beginning because they knew this wasnāt going to last for three weeks. So, I was then with a much smaller team. It just wasnāt safe to recruit; it was just too risky because of how quickly cases were rising. And when I did try and recruit it was quite difficult. It definitely wasnāt as easy as I had recruited in the past, so I found it far more challenging. But yeah, I still had carers coming in and us being or trying to keep each other incredibly safe. But it wasnāt without its challenges.
EMMA - Yeah. Stressful. Pressure.
MATILDA - Yeah. I think I told someone that I felt through the pandemic more like an employer than I did someone who receives care, because there was so much that Iād had to now implement and new things that I had to keep on top of that I didnāt have to before in a way.
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MATILDA - Iād always written, and when I was younger I used to write Scooby-Doo fan fic.
EMMA - Oh love it! So fan fiction, so stories written by the fans about theā¦?
MATILDA - Yeah, about the characters. Iād just continue where episodes stopped. Iād be like thatās not all that happens. And then thankfully the chokehold that Scooby-Doo had over me started to loosen and I fell into poetry, encouraged by my secondary school English teacher. Because that was one of the things as well, like in school, because it was so inaccessible and Iād often get really tired I started just hanging around in classrooms and teachers would just let me. And sometimes theyād forget I was in the room. And my English teacher really got me into poetry and reading poetry and trying my hand at poetry. I was like, ooh thereās something about this, I like being able to say stuff in code, being able to say something but Iām not telling you explicitly, but Iām trying to give you an impression of something. And that really I think excited me about how you could play with language. I thought I was going to do a psychology degree until I spotted a creative writing degree, and not only was it about exploring poetry but all forms of creative writing. So, there was prose, there was non-fiction, there was writing plays, writing screenplays, writing graphic novels, writing for video games. It was such a plethora, and I was like that sounds far more exciting than just psychology. But I knew my mum would never go for it so I changed my course and started uni first for about a month before I told her that I am not studying psychology. And she wasnāt too pleased. But during my time at uni there was a module on playwriting which I really enjoyed. But it was just one module, and I was like how do I get more of this. So, I started researching courses and found a lot of the theatres at the time were doing courses. Whilst I was in uni studying and trying to finish this degree I was also doing all these external courses outside of uni, and I was just trying to do as many as I could really.
EMMA - Yeah. Itās interesting when you were talking about the poetry, and I just wondered if you saw yourself in the poets. Because a lot of poets were rich English men back in the years havenāt they been?
MATILDA ā Hmm.
EMMA - I mean, there are lots of cool ones now.
MATILDA - At the time we were also looking at the works of Benjamin Zephaniah and I was just like, I really like the way this dude tells stories, how is he doing this, I want to know more. And at secondary school we went on a class trip to see a Roy Williams play called Joe Guy at Soho Theatre. And again I found myself watching the play but I was also watching the audienceās reactions to the work, because I was like, how is he doing this, how are the actors doing this. The sign of a good story is one that makes you lean forward, so I wanted to understand what are they doing here, I like it but how are they doing this.
EMMA - Yeah, what are the nuts and bolts of it?
MATILDA ā Yeah.
EMMA - And in terms of disability youāve written quite a bit about your disabled experience, was there a moment where you saw a disability arts person or something disability related? Or did your stuff come first and then you sort of got introduced to that community?
MATILDA - Thatās a good question. I feel like it happened at the same time. I remember seeing Jess Thomās Touretteshero backstage in Biscuit Land and just being kind of blown away. I think that was for me like a gateway. I was already exploring the idea about writing about my disability. Because in the first half of my career I could say a lot of the stuff I was writing probably wasnāt explicitly about disability, but after seeing Jessā show I was like ooh, I like the way she approached the work, or I liked the way she approached her storytelling essentially. And I was like, oh I didnāt know you can do that, I didnāt know you didnāt have to be so literal, if that makes sense.
EMMA - Yes. You didnāt have to say, here Iām disabled, and this is what happened to me.
MATILDA - Yeah. Seeing that show really inspired me, because also being in a space with, I donāt think before then Iād been in a space with so many disabled people in the audience as well as on stage. So, I was like, oh thereās something, the energyās different in here and I like it. So, I think that was yeah, like a gateway show for me.
EMMA - And being the queen of sort of hyphenated things, so like black and disabled, queer and disabled, disabled artist, whatās your experience been of having a foot in all these different communities and how youāve been treated etc.?
MATILDA - Yeah, I think thatās what shapes my lens on the world. It impacts, it shapes the stories that I tell, it impacts the way that I live my life. I think I once described it as being the outsider of the outsiders, so another layer or another level of being able to see the world and people a bit from a bigger distance almost. And often thatās fine and you find your people, you find your communities, you find your tribes. And in other times or experiences it can be quite negative. Some of the experiences I feel like Iāve experienced both in the industry but also in my life in general have always been a mix of not just ableism or realising how related ableism is to racism; but not everyone always making those connections or thinking that they canāt be racist if theyāre disabled or whatever. Itās a mess. Itās also very nuanced Iād say rather than sayā¦it feels like a mess but itās also very nuanced in a sense of being a part of these different communities but still experiencing the intra-prejudice or intra-discrimination within the communities.
EMMA - And does it confuse people? I found when I was blind and pregnant it just confused people. They didnāt know which way to look at me. They didnāt know how to talk. People who didnāt know me they just got a bit confused, just got a bit flustered really.
MATILDA - Yeah definitely. And also I feel like people then are less patient as well. Like Iām someone who canāt be rushed. I have to take my time; I donāt have a choice in that. And yet when people canāt understand you just from seeing your or what have you it means they tend to have less time for you. They donāt want to take the time to understand or listen.
EMMA - Because youāre not the same as them.
MATILDA - Yeah, exactly. And they make very snap assumptions, which can often be very dangerous when people make those kinds of snap judgements on, oh well I donāt have time to take all of you in, Iām just going to say this is who you are or make this assumption about you.
EMMA - Is the disabled community inclusive do you feel? Are they more inclusive than they used to be? What could be more inclusive about us? What could we do better?
MATILDA - Yes, I definitely feel part of the disabled community. I feel saved by my disabled friends. I donāt know what I would do if I couldnāt turn to them and be able to talk about the injustices that we often have to face. But Iāve also definitely noticed that the disabled community does probably have a race issue which it needs to address and unpack when it comes to, not just representation, but just understanding itās not a competition, itās not prejudice Olympics. Actually all our fights are kind of intertwined. All our struggles are intertwined with that of other minorities. And sometimes Iāve often felt like Iāve got pushed back against that, or genuinely treated differently because Iām black and disabled. We donāt need to compete, but rather we need to team up, we need to see how we can make sure the struggles that we are trying to challenge or discriminations or what have you, make sure it covers as many people as possible so that nobody is left behind.
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EMMA - I absolutely loved that chat with Matilda. And you can check out her play, Little Miss Burden, on ±«Óćtv Sounds until 8th December 2021.
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