24/02/2023
A spiritual comment and prayer to begin the day with Hope Lonergan
A spiritual comment and prayer to begin the day with Hope Lonergan
Good Morning!
John Dewey proposed that the âself has no meaning except as contrasted with other personasâ and, as a consequence, âthe self and the world are correlative, and have the same contentâ. This relational interactivity â the idea that the origins and foundations of the self emerge in reference to others â is a key part of social approaches to care work (I cared for the elderly a decade before going into comedy). With any relationship, thereâs a fluidity to interaction â both to the other entities and the world at large. So carers have to be socially agile and adaptable, rather than forcing a resident into certain modes of communication.
Iâve found it to be highly effective to open up space for people with dementia to participate in self-directed action, including the âdirection of travelâ for conversation. (For instance, a resident, out of nowhere, initiated a discussion about getting an acorn trapped in his belly-button. So I decided to share a story about the time I got a popcorn kernel stuck in my ear hole. ) I donât subscribe to a one-size-fits-all, essentialist view of dementia â even if some people promote this.
Either way, when Iâm offstage I now lead a very hermetic â almost monastic - existence. I used to love banging on. You could never get me to shut up. I was an enthusiastic conversationalist; I wanted to find out everything about a person. Now Iâm part of a religion (Quakerism) where Iâm forced to shut up. Which suits a 31 year old recluse, like me.
With this in mind. God, thank you for the care workers who devote their time to the vulnerable . Thank you for the moments of quiet and contemplation. These are the only moments when Iâm truly free of anxiety.
Go lightly.
Amen