By Matt Burton, (aka Mr Burton) secondary school headteacher
Itâs awkward â a page of quadratic equations or past participles of Spanish verbs stare back at you from the kitchen table and youâre stumped. Your child is flummoxed and canât get their head around it, and theyâve come to you for salvation because they're certain that âparents know everything!â
The tough thing is to accept that we, as parents, donât always have the answers. It starts in those first moments of parenthood as the tiny baby in our arms screeches and the panic sets in. âAAARGH! What do I do?â Fast forward a few years and our academic credentials are being put through their paces by a simple piece of homework.
±«Óătvwork isnât intended to frighten parents though. Itâs designed to embed learning, to encourage routine, and to support children to learn and remember more - away from the classroom.
It comes in many forms â it could be pre-learning (where a child might need to read over some material before the next lesson), it could be continuing the work done in the lesson to confirm and embed what theyâve learnt that day, or it could be a standalone task (maybe an exam question or an essay), needing your child to recall their learning from lessons and stretch their brain to remember work from the past.
But, of course, parents have an important role to play (and not just as the last, desperate port of call) in a successful homework journey. So, if youâre struggling to juggle childcare and cooking dinner with a Business Studies exam question on the marketing mix, then here are five top tips which will (I hope) help you to navigate the homework jungle and make it out the other side (and you might even learn something along the way!).
Let go of perfection
First things first: itâs okay to not know the answer. Many a parent has, at some point in the last 18 months of home schooling and remote learning, scratched their head and wondered about what a piece of work means. Lessons can go from phonics to phonemes to phlebotomy to pharaohs from ancient Egypt at an alarming pace. Children - given itâs their routine to change lessons from hour to hour - can adapt quickly, but for a parent to be able to dip in and out and master it all, itâs almost impossible. Also, school is supposed to be a challenge and work should push children to stretch themselves academically at all levels. Donât expect to know everything - though you might just surprise yourself with what you do know!
Things have changed!
Please donât take this the wrong way, but things have changed since you (and I) attended school as a student! Some knowledge remains exactly the same, but the concepts of the curriculum, whatâs expected at certain levels, how itâs delivered, teaching methods and the depth of knowledge expected - these will all have changed in the vast majority of cases. If your child is working through something and you've got an alternative way of working it out, which you think would be much, much easierâŠtry and restrain yourself and instead learn the ânewâ way of working it out! Other methods could be confusing to your child, and whilst you might think itâs much better, there could be a million reasons why itâs being taught in that way.
Don't be afraid to ask!
Absolutely nobody wins if the homework doesnât get done. As weâve already said, itâs supposed to be helpful and supportive to your childâs learning. If they (and you) have strained every sinew to complete it and youâre drawing a blankâŠthen thatâs okay. Nobody would ever ask anything more of them. If that happens, get in touch with your childâs teacher with a note, a call or an email to let them know that they might need a little help. With a two-minute teacher chat the day after, it might open the floodgates and help the homework flow!
Plan, plan, planâŠ
Life is incredibly busy nowadays, and one of the ever-growing challenges is Organisation. The school will have a policy for homework on their website that should tell you how many pieces will be set, when for and whether itâll be online, mixed, or all in exercise books. With homework being set regularly and being expected in on different days, make sure your child uses their homework diary to plan when (and how) itâs going to get done. If theyâve got a mobile phone, setting reminders in their phone calendar - to plan completion of tasks - will help set the expectation that this is importantâŠand that youâre helping them to help themselves.
Location, location, location
For homework to be done well (and for the intended learning to be achieved), itâs important that itâs done in a place where your child can concentrate and where theyâve got the right equipment. Spaces to work should be light, airy and quiet, with natural light flowing in. For loads of reasons though, sometimes thatâs easier said than done. So if they donât have a quiet, calm place to work (or need a computer and donât have one), then you can speak to the school. ±«Óătvwork clubs and after-school help will be very likely available, with teachers and staff on hand to point your child in the right direction and set sail for success!
But at the end of the day, whatâs the most important thing? Itâs very, very simple. Do your best. Thatâs all the school will ask. By just being there, taking an interest, checking in and talking to your child about their homework, youâre already doing a great job. And if they donât do their homework, a little word in their ear to remind them to do it can go a long way to help them see that school and home are working together, and so they need to make sure it gets done! In the vast majority of cases, your child will confidently work through their homework without throwing a page of equations at you - but if they do, I hope you can take a breath, do your best, and get it doneâŠtogether!
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